Life, Kids, Technology & that move to another continent
All day today I told A she is still not yet 11 since the time she was born was late in the day UK time. She would argue with me about it. Then midway through the day I said ok I accept you are 11. She said no, don’t. She wanted to continue to argue with me. So I said “so you want me to continue to say I do not accept you are yet 11? She said yes”
So yes I am still not ready for another tween, but she refuses to listen. The fact that she enjoyed the arguing is an interesting tell for the future.
I took the girls to the LSEG Holiday Party for the first time this year. I am pretty sure it is the only holiday party were you get to perform the closing ceremony for the stock market at the end of the party (simulated, I am pretty sure the market continued at 2:30 on a Monday). We had tickets two years ago and I forget why we couldn’t make it. Last year I don’t think I was able to get tickets. I didn’t realise how in demand this party was. It was pretty awesome.
The girls got to build their own stuffed animals. There was a mini petting zoo. I found that one ironic since it was in a large conference room I goto often. There was also a mini carousel, game room, candy floss / candy and gingerbread decorating. The girls had a really good time.
There was of course Santa reading us the night before Christmas. I am pretty impressed with the party and now know why many at work talk about wanting to go.
All set for Christmas. Ordered these bad boys in October. I learned my lesson two years ago when I ordered them early and didn’t realise I ordered miniature ones. Why do those ezist at all I will not know. By the time we got them it was so close to Christmas we couldn’t find them anywhere!
Have you seen this cat? He goes by Grogu, Chicken, little dickens, and other Aliases. He is a cat of interest in the disappearance of a stuffed Shepard from our advent calendar. And probably other stuff.
Ok he is not missing thankfully, but we do have surveillance on him as much as we can.
When they announced that they were making a show bringing back Picard, it got me thinking about my early memories of Star Trek and my favorite Star Trek captains. For me, choosing my favorite was a pretty easy decision. I then decided to do a top 5 list of the rest. The rest being the first 5 from my childhood through my early 20s. The newer ones add a whole new complexity to the mix. Picking my 2nd through 5th favorite in this ranking was a bit more of a challenge. The order is from least favorite to number one. And if you are reading this, yes, sometimes I have free time to waste time/creative write about nonsensical topics like this.
At number five is Capt. Jonathan Archer from Enterprise. He comes in last not because he was horrible or anything. He was just so-so. Maybe the show came out too late, and I was already attached to others? Regardless, he didn’t leave a massive impression on me.
At number four is Capt. Benjamin Sisko of Deep Space Nine. With Sisko, in many ways, I liked him. I think he was a little bit more erratic than some of the other captains he contended with. I get where they were going with him in the beginning. They were trying to make him have a past and be a bit bitter. He was more unlikable to me than I think they wanted him to be. What also worked and didn’t work for me was the whole emissary thing. By the end, it got a bit weird. Later on, I grew to like him more; however, he had tough competition and is for me at number 4.
At number three for me would be Capt. James T. Kirk. I did really think about whether or not Janeway was number three. Even with so much about Kirk being awesome, I think Janeway was just badass, so Kirk is 3. Originally, I wrote this list with him being 2nd, but I reconsidered. What was going for him was the fact that he was the original captain, which also helps a lot. Only he could overact and still be cool.
At number two would be Capt. Catherine Janeway on Voyager. I find it interesting that I like Deep Space Nine much more than I liked Voyager as a show. However, I still think Janeway was a better captain by far than Cisco. She was tough and kind at the same time. Bringing together two crews and keeping them together by sheer force of will sometimes was pretty awesome. The fact that she was a woman in the Captain’s chair when there were only men before her was pretty awesome. And that was the 90s.
That leaves my favorite captain to be Jean-Luc Picard from the Next Generation. This was no contest for me. My memories of Star Trek: The Next Generation were basically what I grew up on. Picard’s style contrasted hugely with what a captain should be compared to Kirk. I know it was deliberate, and I liked it. He didn’t go on away missions; however, he was protective of his crew. He wouldn’t always be the one to talk in a team meeting and relied on his team to get stuff done. As an adult and leader of people, Picard did things I look to emulate as a leader now. I didn’t even realize it growing up. Yet he did.
With Picard being my favorite, I was super excited to hear that they were making a new series with him. As I am writing this post, I’ve seen two episodes. By the time this eventually gets onto my blog, the series will have ended. I thought the series, in the end, was great. I know many would pick Kirk as the best, yet I don’t see them making any new series for him now, are they?
For the record if I was counting newer captains the Strange New Worlds version of Captain Pike would be tied for 2nd place!
The last few years I spent living in New York City and working at Thomson Reuters before moving to England I was part of a team that, for most of my time there, was based in the same office as me. When I first started in NY, that wasn’t the case. I worked in an office where nobody I directly collaborated with was present. Eventually, the team grew, and most of the group ended up in our New York office. Today i am somewhere in the middle with much a the team in London but the people i daily communicate with spread out all over.
Having the team all together brought a lot of positive outcomes. Group meetings were more effective since we were often in person, which was a nice change from the typical phone meetings. One of the best parts was going out for lunch or coffee together. But by the time our lunches became a regular thing, I was trying to be heathier. Going out to eat several times a week didn’t align with my health goals, so I’d often skip lunch outings and opt for a sandwich in the cafeteria instead. However, I made up for it by joining the team for coffee once or twice a day.
The one exception to my lunch rule was sushi. It was relatively healthy, and I enjoyed it. Or it was healthy enough and I rationalised it as being ok. Whenever the team went out for sushi, I would usually join them. Over time, this became a bit of a pattern. I’d ask where they were going for lunch, and if it was anything other than sushi, I’d politely decline and stick to my sandwich. But if it was sushi, I’d think about it and often end up going with them.
That’s when my friend Faisal caught on to my pattern. If I declined to join for lunch, he’d jokingly suggest, “What if we go to sushi?” I’d grumble, and we’d end up at the sushi place. He started doing this more frequently, and I’d tell him they didn’t need to change plans just for me. I really didn’t want them to. But he would insist it was fine because several others loved sushi anyway. So, I’d curse him (playfully, sort of), and off we’d go—rinse and repeat.
It was delicious. Now, my current team is full of great people, and we get along well, but we’re rarely in the same office. Even when we are, it’s so hectic that we don’t have time for lunch outings. In a way, that’s good because I’m not tempted, but I do miss those sushi lunches with my New York team. I did recently get added to a chat group specifically for deciding were to go out for lunch to. I haven’t yet participated but you never know!
“Na-na-na-na-na-na-na-na Leader!”
The Simpsons The Joy of Sect, Season 9, Episode 13,
This past year the girls have been into the Simpsons recently. I love it because I still quote them often to this day. This quote keeps popping in my head recently.
I started writing the background of this blog entry. I looked at my own archive and realised I had stopped using remote access software sometime in 2016. I think I got spooked by the changes that logmein did to their free plan or that it got bought by someone. I forget. As an alternative I started with remote SSH to remotely manage my growing network of raspberry pi’s. As my setup evolved, I eventually upgraded to OpenVPN for my home network. This way, when I was out with my iPad or laptop, I could connect to my home network and manage my media center.
When WireGuard came along, I switched to that because it was so easy to set up. I’ve been using it ever since for those rare occasions when I need remote access to my house.
Recently, I started experimenting with Tailscale, which is a mesh network implementation of WireGuard. The concept sounded great, and their free plan supports up to 100 devices across three users, which is more than enough for me. I set up Tailscale on my workstation and most of my Raspberry Pis. Now, instead of using WireGuard to connect to my home network when I want to access the media center, I just log my iPad onto the Tailscale mesh network, giving me seamless access to all my services. To make things easier, I use CNAME records with one of my domain names, so I don’t have to remember the cryptic Tailscale-provided domain names. It’s all been working smoothly.
With M and the girls away this week, I’ve had time to play around with Tailscale’s exit nodes. This feature allows me to route all my internet traffic through any Tailscale client I set up as an exit node. I found this intriguing because it lets me browse the internet as if I were at home, even when I’m out. I also experimented with setting up an exit node on my VPS in Texas, so I could route my traffic through there.
I recently noticed Tailscale offers Mullvad VPN exit nodes as an add-on. Mullvad is a solid VPN provider; if I didn’t already have Proton for other services, I’d probably use them. This add-on is essentially a full Mullvad VPN plan for five devices, allowing me to configure Mullvad exit nodes. I’ve been testing it over the past few days, both at home and on the go with my phone and iPad. Like any VPN, there’s a bit of overhead in terms of latency and bandwidth, but I’ve been using the London exit node and haven’t noticed any performance issues.
What’s great about this setup versus a traditional VPN is that I don’t have to toggle anything off to access my home network—my connections just work. This setup is letting me keep a VPN on all the time when I’m out, which I prefer. The Mullvad add-on costs an extra $5 per month on top of the Proton services I already use, but it’s been worth it so far. With a single click, I can switch the exit node to any other Mullvad location or one of my own, like my home network or VPS.
I’m actually so happy with this setup that I’m considering configuring the girls’ iPads to have always-on VPN through Tailscale.
an extra $5 per month on top of the Proton services I already use, but it’s been worth it so far. With a single click, I can switch the exit node to any other Mullvad location or one of my own, like my home network or VPS.
I’m actually so happy with this setup that I’m considering configuring the girls’ iPads to have always-on VPN through Tailscale.
Since I had some extra free time this week, I bought an additional Raspberry Pi 4 specifically as a VPN exit node for the house. I’d been experimenting with an existing Pi 4 as the exit node while it was handling other tasks, but I ran into some routing issues and didn’t want to troubleshoot on a device already in use. So, I spent about £50 on a new Pi and case. I do have a couple of Pi 3s lying around, but I didn’t want to use them due to their 100meg network bandwidth limitations. A Pi 5 seemed like overkill for this purpose, though I did pick one up for another project (which I might write about later).
So far, I’m very pleased with my new mesh VPN setup!
For years, I’ve pondered which football team to follow. Before moving to England, I had no preference, so it felt like a big decision. Once you pick, you really can’t change. I even wrote about this in a separate entry. To make it official, I discussed it with my kids and got their buy-in on my choice. I had chosen Arsenal for several reasons (which I won’t go into again here).
I’d never been to a professional football match before. M, the girls, and I had talked about going, but without a team to root for, it didn’t feel worth the effort. This fall, though, I booked tickets. Since I have two daughters—and because it’s generally easier to get tickets—I chose an Arsenal Women’s match. Afterward, my daughters were looking at kits to purchase. That’s when my oldest announced she wasn’t getting one because she wasn’t sure if she’d follow Arsenal like the rest of us. Instead, she was considering Chelsea.
When I asked why Chelsea, she explained that one of her teachers is a Chelsea fan, and Alex Rider, a character from a book series she likes, is too. I jokingly told her I didn’t know where I’d gone wrong as a parent. She laughed, knowing I was kidding. I shared a story about my dad, a New York Giants (American Football) fan, and how, even though I wasn’t into football, if I had to choose, I’d have picked the Washington Redskins back then. My dad didn’t give me a hard time about it.
At the Arsenal match, I told T that if she enjoyed the experience, I’d look into taking her to a Chelsea home game to see if she liked them better. She agreed, while A was set on returning for another Arsenal match. (Side note: I keep reminding myself to say “match” instead of “game.”)
When I started looking into Chelsea home games, we stumbled upon the Chelsea vs. Arsenal game at Emirates Stadium. T then said if we went to that match, she’d “most likely” choose Arsenal. I offered the Chelsea home game option again, but she was set on seeing Arsenal face Chelsea at Emirates. Before the match, she even asked for the same light-blue Arsenal kit top that A had. I told her that once we bought it, there’d be no turning back. 🙂
The whole family went to the Arsenal vs. Chelsea match, and while we were all disappointed by Chelsea’s win, it was a great game. You can never be entirely sure with T, but I’m mildly confident she’s officially joined the rest of us as an Arsenal fan.
When the girls and I decided on a football club to follow, I mentioned wanting to schedule a time to attend a game with them. This past weekend, we finally went to our first football match, which was also our first time at Emirates Stadium. The girls had watched football on TV before, and we all really enjoyed it. Even M, who mildly got into it during the Euros, showed some interest. I wanted them to experience the excitement of a live game, especially in a packed stadium. With Arsenal Women now playing many home games at Emirates, it felt like the perfect opportunity.
We were not disappointed. Our seats were near midfield, offering a fantastic view of everything. The energy in the stadium was amazing, with around 42,000 people in attendance. It wasn’t quite a sellout, but when Arsenal scored or had a near miss, the place exploded with noise. Even T, who is still undecided on teams, got caught up in the excitement.
With M still in the States last minute, I ended up taking one of the girls’ friends to the game. She wasn’t even a football fan, let alone an Arsenal supporter, but she was probably louder than both my girls combined!
By the time the game ended, both girls agreed they wanted to do it again.
When we got home, A made the cover of the game programme the background on her tablet.
I’ve mentioned before how surprised I am at how much I enjoy watching football on TV. Experiencing it live was even better.
I’m marking this one down as a parenting win